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How to Be a Trans Ally; For The Love of Ashlie


There was a time when I was a quiet, almost timid ally of the transgender people who passed through my life. When my daughter Ashlie revealed her true gender in 2008, the level of my engagement in trans-issues changed forever. … Continue reading

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Just Evelyn’s “Mom I Need To Be A Girl”


I'm tempted to give this gem of a book five stars because it was literally the ONLY book of its kind that could be found when I needed it. Parenting a transgender teenager is, in so many ways, an isolating … Continue reading

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upon finding a book she stole in the 4th grade


  I say "How could I have known?" She says "How could you not know?" I say "To be fair, you worked hard to mislead us."                                 … Continue reading

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Joy and Grief and Dancing


My friend William Carlos  got married that July and I wore the dress I bought for Alice's memorial. The wedding reception was held in the garden of a lovely old hotel in Aptos, near the bay. As we entered the … Continue reading

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Our child died from an overdose of OxyContin. NOT from an overdose of pink. In the last two and a half years, there has been a wide variety of theories, rumors and explanations for our sixteen year-old daughter's death being … Continue reading

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