the eulogy mix


When my uncle died unexpectedly a few years back, his wife and a nephew stayed up late the night before the memorial, burning a CD of some of his favorite songs to play before and after the service. In the rush of the next day, however, the CD got forgotten and their labor of love got left behind. A couple of years later, I found myself making this mental list of songs I would want someone to think to play if I was the one who’d made my early exit.

I was still working on the list when Ash died, and some of the songs I see on here now have become hers in my mind.  (In particular the Hans Zimmer, the Dylan and the Pink Floyd). Even now, I shy away from all Pink Floyd. This post has been sitting in my draft box for nearly two years now, except for the last couple of sentences. I am sick of looking at it, feeling the horror that comes with the realization that i was worrying about the music for my own memorial, not knowing that Ash would make her escape before i did, and the guilt, of course, of even considering it “my escape” in the first place. Anyway, without fanfare, or further self-flagellation, i’ll post what was once intended to be my eulogy mix, back when the idea of a memorial CD was theory rather than reality.

  • I Wish I Knew How It Would Feel To Be Free – Nina Simone
  • The Happy Land – Nick Cave and Warren Ellis
  • Ave Maria – Aaron Neville
  • Latter Days – Over The Rhine
  • Scarborough Faire/Canticle – Simon and Garfunkle
  • You Belong to Me – Bob Dylan
  • Nitemare Hippie Girl – Beck
  • Muhammed My Friend – Tori Amos
  • It is Well With My Soul – Mahalia Jackson
  • Under the Milky Way – The Church
  • House of the Rising Sun – Lester Norton’s (by personal request) cover
  • If You See Her, Say Hello – Bob Dylan
  • Wish You Were Here – Pink Floyd
  • Rivers of Babylon – Sublime
  • Lithium – Nirvana
  • Variations on a Theme from Paganini – Rachmananov
  • Leonard Cohen’s “If It Be Your Will” – Antony Haggerty’s cover
  • You’re So Cool – Hans Zimmer

So there it is.

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3 Responses to the eulogy mix

  1. Solonor says:

    You can haul up a shovel full of guilt wherever you choose to dig. But knowing that it’s only hindsight that gives this kinda practical exercise it’s negative energy doesn’t make it any less painful. Sorry it hurts. 🙁

  2. Evelyn says:

    What would you want your friends and loved ones to remember you by in these songs…? What would Ash want you to feel when listening to them?

  3. Brad says:

    Good list… but a bit sadder than I expected. I think I’d arrange mine like a concept album, with down parts and up parts, ending on a high note. 🙂 An intriguing exercise. Makes me wonder what I’d do for those close to me.

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